Comparison is poison

Hey everyone! I pray this post finds you in good spirits, and health! January was swept right from under our feet. Now we are in February already! As we can see time isn’t waiting for any of us. We have to make certain that we manage our time. We have to make sure that we spend our time wisely with our daily actions, thoughts, and the people we spend it with. I will be turning 27 on February 12^th. *whew* I am getting up there haha. Throughout the years I’ve realized that a lot of people in this generation love to compare. A lot of us like to undermine ourselves because of societal age expectations. Aaliyah said it best, “Age ain’t nothin’ but a number.” Assure yourself this one thing that you will not stress about where you are in life because of where others think you should be, where you think you should be, or because of where you see others are. I have friends my age and we are all living totally different. Some of us own houses, some of us stay with our parents (ME!) haha, and some of us have apartments. We are all in a different position in life, but we know that this is where God wants us at the moment. Don’t look at other peoples lives and compare it to yours. The trajectory of your life is not contingent upon your age. Its contingent upon the plans God has for you.

When you begin to compare your life to others you either undermine yourself, or deem yourself better than others. Both are treacherous, and can be harmful to your existence. You may be asking how is this possible Daryl? Well comparing your life to someone else’s can be burdensome on you. You may begin to compare by looking at the career that person has, assets they have, or even relationships and wonder why you aren’t seeing those aspects flourish in your life. It makes it hard on you because then your mind may wonder off to figuring out how the other person got those things and you didn’t. It’s not for any of us to be concerned with what someone else has. At all. We have to realize that God will never steer us wrong, and we have to trust God, and believe that our territory will be enlarged. Don’t look at others and ask why don’t you have it, look at them and celebrate them. Celebrate them because you never know what obstacles they faced, conquered, or are still facing all while trying to get to where they currently are. When you begin to compare your life to others to make yourself feel better it is dangerous. For example, telling yourself well at least I’m not on the path like Kathy. Kathy maybe experiencing some internal situations that we may not be aware of. Is it right to compare the current situation of Kathy to ours? Absolutely not. Kathy may very well be on her way to a breakthrough where her territory is going to increase, while the ones comparing may be on the verge of being in a similar situation as Kathy.

It’s harmful to us to compare. We have to realize that someone may be up one day then the next minute down. We have to keep each other in prayer while staying in our zone. Comparison is poison. The only time we should compare is when we are trying to be better than the being, we were yesterday. God grants us the desires of our heart. God didn’t say when, but said it will be granted. You will get that house, you will graduate, you will find love, you will be financially free, you will be emotionally free, if it’s you desire. Things will work out! “For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.” (Habakkuk 2:3). Don’t compare where you are now to others. Compare where you were, where you are, and where you desire to be! LOVE YOU ALL!